The concept of 'growing up' has always fascinated me. As I apply it to myself; I am constitutionally mature enough to marry(21+), my elder sister still often refers to me as 'baby' and my mother still gives me instructions like ''chalti gadi mei se haanth bahar mat karna''.( Of course, the pompous 'me' thinks very high of myself ). So how does it happen? We all age. Only few of us grow up. Growing up is a bit of an enigma. We never will know what it exactly is. As I see around, the schema of grown ups scares me. Responsibility thrusted upon rather than taken up, fake camaraderie for selfish gains, compromises and sacrifices. In a sense, growing up requires one to give up on oneself, life turned into a show to please others. This sort of 'growing up' doesn't appeal, unfortunately practiced by most, the code of civility excessively formalized.
Societies has rules for themselves. Individuals too ( if not, should have). Often, they might be in conflict, but the societal rule prevails. Adhering to the societal rules by individuals is seen as more acceptable. The stigma of 'rebel' is a big deterrent.( Here I am talking about the real rebels, not the rockstar 'saada haq' types). When you are young, the rebel tag seems acceptable, as we grow up, somehow, the society gains the upper hand. My teacher in school once said something that truly affected me ( she said that while defending complains against me) , ''We must accept people with their faults''. Accepting one's own weakness is tough. Our discomfort with our own faults makes us forego rules that we set for ourselves, embracing the rules society sets, so as to appear more acceptable, camouflaging our weakness. This phenomenon is sold to us as 'Growing up' and maturing. It actually is spiritual suicide.
I am a believer in absolute freedom. My idea of life is probably radical, and I have no intention of propagating it, simply because it may not be correct. Yes, at my age , I can live it my way, but the very thought of surrendering my philosophy for something more acceptable is scary. I would definitely age, and would want to grow up and mature, but as I want to be, not as the world wants me to be. Perhaps, that would not be possible. In that case, I would rather never grow up, and have my mother give those cute little instructions all my life :).
Cheers.
Societies has rules for themselves. Individuals too ( if not, should have). Often, they might be in conflict, but the societal rule prevails. Adhering to the societal rules by individuals is seen as more acceptable. The stigma of 'rebel' is a big deterrent.( Here I am talking about the real rebels, not the rockstar 'saada haq' types). When you are young, the rebel tag seems acceptable, as we grow up, somehow, the society gains the upper hand. My teacher in school once said something that truly affected me ( she said that while defending complains against me) , ''We must accept people with their faults''. Accepting one's own weakness is tough. Our discomfort with our own faults makes us forego rules that we set for ourselves, embracing the rules society sets, so as to appear more acceptable, camouflaging our weakness. This phenomenon is sold to us as 'Growing up' and maturing. It actually is spiritual suicide.
I am a believer in absolute freedom. My idea of life is probably radical, and I have no intention of propagating it, simply because it may not be correct. Yes, at my age , I can live it my way, but the very thought of surrendering my philosophy for something more acceptable is scary. I would definitely age, and would want to grow up and mature, but as I want to be, not as the world wants me to be. Perhaps, that would not be possible. In that case, I would rather never grow up, and have my mother give those cute little instructions all my life :).
Cheers.
1 comment:
Hmmm..
Happy bday .... some way u are a grown up ..as we can find the depth in this post actually
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